C S A ?does any one have any adviCE PLEAse .. ( question for a friend)?

i have always paid cash for my 2 childern who are now 15 and 17. the mother has never worked and claims everything!! she never tells agencys when she has live in lovers. i buy clothes food uniforms on top of the cash i give her. but stupidly i never kept the recipts or had a direct debit as she wanted the cash.. now the csa want £35000.00 estimated from me, i dont even know if one of the kids is mine , that was put in my face one day, but as i dont know ile treat them the same. i went to court they want the children to do a blood test- they wont do that.. what can i do- solicitors wont touch this sort of thing ive tried everything, im at my wits end. (no pratish answers please)

C S A ?does any one have any adviCE PLEAse .. ( question for a friend)?
Really hate saying this but looks like gonna have to pay. Could do like my ex %26amp; change address %26amp; job everytime CSA catch up cos even though I've got a liability order against him %26amp; had baliffs out looking no-one can find him so I've not received a penny in the last 8 yrs.





But don't think you or your mate are like that %26amp; to start having blood test now on the one that may have a different father seems really cruel, do they actually know you/he might not be the dad.





If your ex has been on benefits she's had to give your details to the CSA so she can receive her benefit.





Have a word with your MP see if they can do anything.





Good luck
Reply:Oh this is such a bad situation. The father of my child has never paid a penny. I have really struggled, and would have loved to have had a man like that to help. Why are the CSA suddenly involved? Maybey she had no choice but to use them, although it doesn't sound like she is going to admit to the fact that he has paid for them. His only hope is to get legal advice. The children may be able to vouch for him.
Reply:sorry mate you've gotta pay if you didn't keep receipts. I had to pay £3500 cos the evil one said i hadn't given her anything, even though like you I'd paid regularly and bought clothes food etc.
Reply:They can't get blood from a stone. Declare yourself bankrupt for a year and start again.





Or agree, enter an IVA and pay 20% ot their estimate over 5 years and have the rest written off.
Reply:Try the Citizens Advice,they know all the legalities of this sort of thing.They will even help you find a solicitor who WILL help you.Its a free service. Not much, I know,but this is a legal minefield. Just remember, from now on,keep ALL receipts,records etc.Even bank statements,anything!! I wish you good luck with this.
Reply:get a good lawyer to have the court order a blood test and if one of them is not your take you exwife to court to get the money you have paid over the years for that one back. sounds like you married a whore
Reply:Join the military

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