My boy friend let his friend's girlfriend stay the night at his house tonight b/c she was too drunk to drive

He said that they're just friends, but i just have a bad feeling about the whole situation. She's 17 and he's 20 but still i just don't like the fact that she's sleeping over at his house while i'm not around. Am i just being paranoid or should i be mad at him? Please help!

My boy friend let his friend's girlfriend stay the night at his house tonight b/c she was too drunk to drive
I have to agree with what others say. Do you trust him? If she was really drunk he did the right thing by having her stay. Now if anything hapopens after that I say time for a new B/f.





BTW... what is a 17 yr old drinking like that for anyway? Kids nowadays are nuts.
Reply:If he loves you, there is nothing to worry about. And I think you should believe him. Yes, you dislike the fact that there is another girl sleeping at his home now. If I were you, I would think the same way. But you better stop because after such thoughts the only one upset is YOU! I believe that your relationship is going very well and the only girl he wants to be with is you. After all, boys don't like drunk girls who can't even stay on their feet ;)))
Reply:Where was this girls boyfriend at and why didnt he come to pick her up? If the girls boyfriend was there too, than I wouldnt think anything about it. I would go with your gut, but you might have better luck getting the truth out of the girl than your boyfriend, sorry but its true. Oh, and try talking to the girl's boyfriend and see what he thinks about the whole situation. If he is also have bad vibes, than I would just bail on this guy, life is too short and trust me, there are plenty of great guys out there. Good luck
Reply:first of all, it depends on what kind of guy your boyfriend is. is he the kind of person who cares about his friends? if he is, then he's probably genuinely just letting her stay there because she's too mangle-faced to drive. secondly, if you're worrying about him cheating on you, then there's clearly a lack of trust in the relationship, and that's key in any lasting relationship.
Reply:Well if you don't trust him with another girl then why is he your boyfriend? and if he was gonna cheat on you then why would he tell you she was there?
Reply:You have to base it on his character and how he has acted in the past. He may not be able to drive her because he also had a bit too much to drink. Talk to him about it and let him know how you felt. Whatever doubts you have are for a reason and need to be aired out. Hope it works out for you. Good luck.
Reply:wow I'm glad you're not my girlfriend I'd go nuts dealing with the paranoia, and if you have a reason not to trust him just dump him anyway, what's the point of being in a relationship and having to think about things like that?
Reply:dont grt mad -get even
Reply:I wouldn't trust him. Is there anybody else staying over, or is it just the two of them? Where is her boyfriend? Why is he hanging out with her and drinking when nobody else seems to be around? Even if he didn't actually cheat, that's still kind of creepy and I'm sure you can do better.
Reply:lol, sorry they did it
Reply:answer one question! do you trust him? and there you will have the answer to end you anger and paranoia
Reply:lol, sorry they did it
Reply:let it be. just be glad you have someone who cares about other people and isn't so self centered. You're being too paranoid and jealous. How would you feel if it were the reverse and he was too drunk to drive but a girlfriend didn't let him stay over night so he crashed and died? Sadly I know alot of families who's kids died in car accidents because they were drunk and a few killed a friend or two as well. Think of peoples health first.
Reply:wheres her bf an why aint he lookn after her?
Reply:yes you should come over here and sleep at my house just to show him
Reply:First of all that is called contributing to the deliquency of a minor, and it is a misdemenor. I would also have a problem with that. He should have found her a ride home. I know you all have friends and you or her boyfriend should have possibly been available too. I just wouldn't do it when I was seeing someone else-Just to avoid stuff like this!
Reply:yah, you should be pissed.





i know there ain't no way i'm having my girl,


have her friend sleep at her house...


knock some sense into him.
Reply:go with your gut feeling girl. we women have intuition for a reason. I'm not suggesting you should be paranoid and accuse him, but you do need to explain to him that it makes you feel very uncomfortable when she sleeps over and you're not around and that should honestly be a good enough reason for him not to let it happen again (as you feelings should come way over those other girls feelings). also try and get him to see it in the reverse,..say to him how would you like it if another guy stayed over at my place without you here? and tell him you trust him, its just the other girl you dont trust!
Reply:so your acting jealous because you have a responsible boyfriend? god. but i'm sure if he would have let that girl leave, and she were in an accident, the first thing out of your mouth would be 'why did you let her leave?!' right? poor guy, he can't win with you. TRUST HIM! i mean, he did tell you she was staying....
Reply:this is just the 1st time, make him understand that you dont like it and let it pass. the problem will be when you catch him at it again.
Reply:i really dont kno...... if ur boyfriend is loyal 2 u....... if he told u this by himself then hes not hiding this from u.
Reply:there is probably nothing to worry about.he's just trying to make sure that a friend doesn't get busted , hurt or even worse.try to trust him unless he gives you a reason not to trust him.if that happens, then he isn't worth your time anyway.
Reply:percception is reality !!! unfortunately you maybe right good luck :)
Reply:wow thats a tough situation....your boyfriend should have either taken her home...or to her boyfriends house....or called you and told you that hes in this situation if you couold come and help him out
Reply:at least he is doing the responsible thing by not letting this lush drive home .... u would feel bad if she died cus u didnt want her to spend the nite at his house.... its really 50/50 if he did hook up with her or didnt... it all depends on your relationship, if u guys are open and honest with one another...
Reply:i would wonder why her bfs not there
Reply:ok, are you just an idiot ? You honeslty belief this clown ??? Honey, he is taking care of business right now and your letting it happen. In the morning you need to call him and tell him " hpoe it was worth it" hang up and go on with your life ! yeah he sounds like a true saint too and I have the Brooklyn Bridge to sell you for five dollars !!!!!