What should you do if a close friend asks you to stop cursing in front of them b/c of their religious beliefs?

This friend is about to become my roommate, and I don't want to offend her, but I don't feel comfortable changing myself because of her religion.

What should you do if a close friend asks you to stop cursing in front of them b/c of their religious beliefs?
It isn't about compromising your belief system it is about maturing, and respect. If you are going to college then this would be a good time to learn how to control your language. In the near future you will have a job that requires a certain amount of responsibility and that would include good verbal communications. A friend would hardly see this as any type of an obstacle if the friendship is something that you also value.
Reply:You arent changing yourself. Youre being courteous to your FRIEND. Maybe you two shouldnt live together??
Reply:It's not about changing yourself - It's about respecting your "friend" b/c they find your cussing offensive. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe your language might need to be changed? Cussing is not as attractive as you might think. In fact, it really makes you look stupid and uneducated. Do yourself and your friend a favor and cut back.
Reply:i am not sure that you two should live together if this major thing is in the way. Cursing is a part of growing up. You have to get there for yourself. You will get there when you are ready. So if you arent ready you might want to live with someone that is ok with it.
Reply:If she means enough to you to respect her beliefs, its a fairly small thing to ask.


Its not changing you, its showing respect to her. Make sure she knows that because you care about her, you are willing to do this for her- if you are willing to, that is.





Just another way to look at it...
Reply:this one is easy... if she is truly a "close friend" and you "respect" her.... stop the potty mouth talk.... you'll be better for it and she will appreciate it, thus drawing you two closer.... hmmmm - sounds like a good fit for roommates.





you can do this...........





Be Blessed!
Reply:Then you'd better rethink moving in with her!
Reply:Stop cursing in front of them. It's rude and unnecessary no matter what your friend's religious beliefs are.





It's not like she's asking you to change your religion, she's just asking you to stop doing something that frankly gets REALLY annoying if you have to hear someone swearing all the time, some people (myself included) just really don't want to have to hear your negativity 24/7.





Besides, if you live in the real world you know there are plenty of places you can't swear, like a classroom or workplace. Avoiding swearing at home will help to keep you from slipping and swearing at times %26amp; places where it's REALLY inappropriate. (BTW, someone at my husband's job just got canned because he slipped and said the f-word in a company meeting. Bet he wishes that wasn't a habit for him now!) My advice is to grow up, get a more well-rounded vocabulary, and not make this about religion when there are plenty of other reasons for you to change.
Reply:idk just dont her feelings cause that could lead to some thing bad
Reply:It doesn't matter what a person believes. Cursing in any circumstance is just plain rude. I feel you should respect her wishes and try to stop cursing around her or anyone else. I'm assuming you are using God's name in vain. I'm also assuming you are not a believer. Why then would you call on God in the first place?
Reply:I would stop cursing if she is a close friend you shut shut your nasty mouth around her If you are not willing to do that you are not a friend. That's just an Atheists View.
Reply:If you respect her and her religion, and that is the only thing she is asking of you, you should do your best to go along. Otherwise, it could be a long, long time together, and you will not be friends for long. If that is too hard to do, you should both consider other roommates.
Reply:respect them.
Reply:At least she had the courage to ask. Holding your tounge is not changing yourself, it's showing proper respect in the presence of a woman. When you're out of the house, swear up a storm.
Reply:Out of respect for my friend, as well as respect for their religious beliefs, I would stop cursing in front of them.


If you aren't willing to do something this easy for someone you say is your close friend, then perhaps you need to re-evaluate the words "close friend".


Good luck to you both.
Reply:She's just using the 'religious' belief as an excuse to try


and make you speak as an adult.





Evidently, you're embarrassing and offensive.





Maybe you should just grow up and clean up your act.





Bet you'd make a lot more friends and people would want to


be around you more.
Reply:WEll, if you're a true friend you can overlook it.
Reply:This friend is not asking you to change your hair colour, or what you wear, or your sexuality. They are asking you to observe an accepted courtesy and curb your profanity while you are with them. It's called manners to watch what you say, and if you think about it, maybe it's a good thing to not curse at all. You might think you sound tough or something, but you're really disrespecting yourself and all those around you by mouthing off with profanity.





Respect your friend's wishes, and when something important to you comes up, they'll be more willing to respect your wishes.
Reply:Would you be happy if your friend did things you did not like she is no doubt a very nice person and those same religous beliefs are one of the reasons she is nice so give her a go it will work out ok.
Reply:Don't change your self because of her religion, change your self because cursing in front of people, no matter what their religious beliefs, is a rude and ugly habit that you have grown beyond.
Reply:either don't become roommates, or don't curse around her after you do. easy.
Reply:If she's a close friend why would you want to offend her? Why do you cuss anyway? Cussing makes you appear to be without class and trashy. Also, it's offensive to many more than just your roommate to be.
Reply:i agree that u shouldn't change yourself cuz of someone's religion but to keep ur relationship together u should respect it but jus don't cuss in front of them so it isn't neccessarily changin urself becuz u still cussin but not in front of dem also cussin is rude period so u jus need to grow up and get urself togetha
Reply:I don't think she wants you to change yourself, I think that she doesn't want to have to listen to that at home. I would try to be courteous and watch what I said around her. At the same time, you should explain to her that while you will do your best it is your home as well and you have the right to relax at home too.
Reply:I would honor her request. Its a small price to pay to keep peace between roommates.
Reply:It's not a bad habit to watch what you say around people when it comes to swearing. Swearing in, say, an office environment is considered immature and unprofessional. Limiting your cursing to certain environments or just around certain friends is a good habit to develop now.
Reply:nevermind the religion everyone has there moments of outbursts but it's just common courtesy to speak without cursing since you're point comes across better and you communicate a lot more efectively without it. not to mention cursing in public isnt exactly socially acceptable in society. i say grow with change.
Reply:Stop cursing for goodness sakes, you don't want to change yourself, you would be bettering yourself. Become someone with a bit of class. Perhaps your roommate could set a great example for you and you could grow as a person. Or you could move into a trailer
Reply:Tell her to f u ck off
Reply:just tell her you love the reward you get when you use shameful language that offends other people, it makes you feel good inside. just tell her, thats the kind of person you are, if she doesn't like it, that just too bad. and then use a few of those curse words to show her how serious you are about your right to use bad words.
Reply:Uh, I would ask "when did this change for you?"

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