How do I get over my feelings 4 him, hes a good friend but I havent told him cause I think its 4 the best b\c

Im leaving New Zealand. Ive got an opening for a job as an airhostess %26amp; in order 4 me 2 work 4 the company I have 2 live over in Burendai which is where I will working so.... Ive decided 2 take up job. Its a once in a lifetime opportunity. I'll be making enough money 2 buy me a house within a year. How could I not take the job.


The thing thats hurting the most is my feelings 4 my mate. We met last year thru a store that he now manages... %26amp; erm overtime we've become close. We share our things with each other CDs,books etc. Hes always open with me. We have alot in common we always finish sentences really. We know what each other is gonna say b4 we even say it. I knw it sounds weird but thats how close we are.


Erm... anyways over time Ive developed feelings 4 him beyond friendship %26amp; everytime I go instore I always hide it. I put on my mates mask on yknw what i mean.Anyways Ive tried forcing myslf on2 other guys that didnt work, ive tried avoiding him but id alway meet up with him sumwea

How do I get over my feelings 4 him, hes a good friend but I havent told him cause I think its 4 the best b\c
I think you should strongly consider telling him how you feel. I'm in a similar situtation, except we still see each other every day, so I don't want to risk changing things by saying how I feel. Because of your job offer, you really have nothing to lose - if he feels the same as you, great, and if not, you won't have to worry about seeing him all the time - you'll just be able to enjoy your new life and move on. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Reply:I can't tell you how to get over him, everyone deals with their feelings differently. However what I do truly believe is, if he feels the same way for you and he knows how you feel for him, then he will makes things work, he will do whatever it takes because that's what people do especially guys. I have spent thousands of dollars, taken time away from work, driven / flown hundreds of miles out of my way to get my girl to let her know I am devoted. I look back now and think wow, that was crazy all the stuff I did to get her attention, but I would do it all over again if I had to.





Hope everyhting works out for you, sometimes you really don't know what you have until you don't have it anymore!!





-Todd
Reply:Hi, well that is a very complicated and nice relationship you have with your friend but has he ever made any attempt to ask you out???? I think you should tell him how you feel what damage can it do after all you are leaving so what do you have to lose, But I most proberly think he will feel the same way about you. Good Luck
Reply:A friend of mine said, it's all about energy... the feeling you have, the emotion, the mind, the lust, everything... What you need to do is channel that energy to other things - for example focus very much on your work, and have a good time-occupying hobby. Express everything in journals/writings, arts, anything...





Whether he likes/loves you or not... well, it's about time somebody whack his head and force the words from his mouth. There's no telling if the guy keeps on holding back, even I have that problem. But you can test him bit by bit indirectly to know if he likes you or not.. there's many ways for that.





Wanna write more, but time not on my side... Hope this is ample for the moment.
Reply:Go to your new job and bury yourself in work. When you find yourself not thing about him no more, then date some people there. If you want to forget about him, which to me it seems you don't. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Take it form there.
Reply:My advise to you is to not reject your feelings. Find out how he feels about you. I have learned that I can find any job and I can live anywhere. But I can't fathom living with out the woman I love. If you love him then find out how he feels. If he does not feel the same way then you will be able to leave with no regrets. But if you just up and leave without trying you will regret it from that point on!





Good luck!